So where do I start?
This is a photo of the Rhine River in Germany. It is the border on the west coast of Germany, separating the country from other countries like France, Luxembourg, Netherlands and Belgium. It is a beautiful sight! One that I will be seeing in another month or two. My husband's FDS or first duty station is Grafenwoehr/Vilseck Germany. He also discovered that he is assigned to a unit that is most likely deploying sometime this summer. So within a week I found out we were moving to Germany, I quit my job, and I discovered that there was a huge possibility of deployment in the very near future. All things that I never would have expected to happen in my life a year ago this time...
And all I hear is "That's the Army!".
So now where do I go from here? I have been reading, doing research, shopping, spending countless amounts of money doing paperwork and I still feel as though I know nothing. I am waiting for the movers to schedule a time to come and pack all of our belongings and in the meantime, I'm trying to spend as much time as I can with family, as I feel as though our time is limited.
One of the biggest things I have learned in the past few days, is that my husband needs me. He is just as scared, excited and anxious as I am and he is about to be put in a position that not only strips him from the world he is used to, but throws him into danger. It can be extremely scary, for both of us. So in this confusion, I have had a lot of people ask me- are you still going to Germany? What is the point of going to Germany if he is just going to be deployed a few months later? At first, I didn't see the point either. As I become more familiar with blogs and all of the resources that I can share about PCS'ing for the first time, I'll just share some of the advice I have been given. In a few short points, here is what I have discovered:
1- Breathe. I am stronger than I think I am.
2- The FRG (Family Readiness Group) is a great resource to have at any point in time, especially for deployment. Not only can they give me information about his unit while he is away, but they completely and 100% understand how I am feeling because they are going through the exact same thing.
3- My family is always one short and inexpensive plane ride away: the Army takes care of families and dependents while a soldier is deployed. If I go to transportation and tell them that I need to fly home and visit family- they will get me there.
4- PCS'ing really is a team effort. I do not have to pack anything, I just need to oversee everything! My only concern is timing. When are they going to come and take all of my belongings?
5- I need to build a home for my family. I am not expecting. And we aren't planning on having children until after his first tour with the Army. However, that doesn't mean that I can continue on in NY, living like a single adult. My husband will need my support, even when I feel as though I'm not strong enough to give it. He will need a house and a familiar place to come home to after being gone for so long (as much as he won't admit it). In Germany, the barracks just don't cut it after a long deployment. Not to mention, who wouldn't want to sleep in their own bed? I need to create a stable home and environment for my man while he is away. This not only ensures him that I am doing alright, but it helps both of us to look forward to something exciting. Missing birthdays, holidays, and every other damn thing that I do is enough. He doesn't need the stress of worrying about where I will be living and how I am doing, while he is in a warzone expected to focus on a mission. Not to say that I shouldn't worry him- as he is still my husband. But if there is anything that I've learned thus far, it's that focus is one of the most important things in the Army. A family that is unhappy means a soldier is unhappy and that could cost someone their life- even his life, God (or Goddess) forbid.
I am grateful to have such an amazing man to share my life with. I am struggling with many things right now, but questioning my life with him is not one of them! I am excited for this move, as I am nervous. But I know that it will all work out in due time and I will be reunited with my soldier very soon!
For now... some feedback on my first ever blog post would be great!
Things to look forward to:
My wedding planning
Recipes
Advocare
Army Life
Everyday Thoughts
Germany!
Ryanne

So that is the best thing I have heard anyone say. Love you Rye, I am glad you are there for Mikey and it is a great first blog
ReplyDeleteThanks sis!!! It means a lot. Love you too!
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